Jane Watkins Self-Esteem Coaching | London

My approach and how I work

I have been helping women create a meaningful and values based, authentic lives for nearly 20 years in various different ways.Read on to find out how I can help you.

I have found that many of my clients come to see me for similiar themes, just to give you an idea of the ways we can work together. Of course, we are all different and seeking different things, this is not an exhaustive list, just to get you thinking about what you want from your coaching.

I use evidence based psychological practice, along with 20 years of experience to help you look at:

Career Coaching

Do you find yourself hesitating to apply for that promotion, compare yourself to others & fear you are not as good as them? Are you sick of your job or find it no longer fits with your values or life &/or find it meaningless? Do you want to change career but find this a huge idea that is too overwhelming to think about or put into practice? Do you find it difficult being a manager and want to enjoy it more? Are you really stressed & finding it hard to manage that stress &/or maybe have no work/life balance? Or maybe you are finding it difficult to return to work after a break. Or maybe you just feel totally burned out & don't know how to carry on. Are you left feeling anxious & exhausted?

how I can help: I can help you look at your situation in a holistic way & help you to work out where you have come from, where you are, what is getting in the way & where you might like to be. We can look at how to maximise your career potential, your strengths & work towards having a sense of achievement, pleasure & fulfilment from your working life. We can work together to get you unstuck in your career.

Imposter Syndrome

Do you find yourself doubting your achievements with a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud" even though you have concrete evidence to the contrary? Do you feel you do not deserve your achievements & feel its just luck, timing, or tricking others into thinking you are better than you are?

how I can help: I can help you look at the actual evidence of how much you achieve, do & more than that, start to believe and enjoy your success. We can look at the origin of these fears, how you have developed these self-limiting beliefs & find ways to move past them. Imagine feeling fulfilled and quietly self-confident every time you walk into the office (or most situations)? What would that be worth to you?

Business Coaching

Being in or starting a new business is huge, I know, have been & are there right now. It is SO overwhelming & sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees. Often we can become stuck & adopt, what I call the "scattergun" approach of trying to do a bit of this & a bit of that & feel like you are not getting anywhere.

how I can help: I can help you to define very specific, clear & achievable goals. Help to create actionable & achievable plans based on these goals. We can identify opportunities to improve performance and growth. We can look at if you could find ways to delegate tasks leaving you free to be creative and make more money! I can help you to develop new business ideas & how to move them forward. I can also help to think about how to turn a hobby into business.

Personal Growth

This is a huge topic! Often described as becoming your "best self"! This is so unique to every person and a fascinating journey. The journey can be about overcoming limiting self beliefs, blocks & fears about numerous things, such as not being good enough. feeling unlikeable & so on. Ultimately, so many things can get in the way of us feeling fulfilled and having a meaningful life and learning to accept and like ourselves as we really are. To be able to accept ourselves and be our true self is very liberating and empowering. To be able to stop listening to our self critic, problem solve rather than worry and look forward rather than back.

how I can help: I can help you in this journey. I use a very simple diagrammatic formula to help you see why you do what you do and to help break all those unhelpful loops you are in currently. I can help you to build on your strengths and develop more to help you live a life rooted in your values and what is important to you.

Doing what I love

There are a number of difficulties that we experience with this. It can be identifying what "it" is that we want to be loving doing, how we achieve it and how we live our life doing it. It is not straight forward at all. That "it" can mean changing our whole lives & some of those changes might not be possible or just bloody scary!

how I can help: Let's think about your "it" together & find out what "it" is & help you start moving toward "it".

Finding balance

We have so much to balance in our lives in so many different areas: finances, time, stress, emotions, relationships, kids, relatives, judgements & criticism from others and the toll that this all takes. The list is SO big, there is not enough space here.

how I can help: I can help you find a sense of equilibrium and well-being whilst juggling all those balls between your responsibilities & goals. We may even find some balls you can safely drop to create more space to love you life a bit more!

Perfectionism

This is not actually about trying to be perfect! "I am not a perfectionist" is what all my clients have said over the years. What it boils down to in daily life is setting unachievably high goals for the things that we do. Because those goals are unachievable the person is left with a sense of failure in almost everything they do. There are often rigid rules the person sets for themself that stifles flexible thinking and creativity. There then tends to be further striving that results in all kinds of unhelpful behaviours. It is hard to enjoy life if you all you feel is a constant sense of failure.

how I can help: There is ALWAYS a reason for perfectionism. There is ALWAYS a reason why you feel you cannot do things any other way. I want to help you understand these reasons as you can then make a more balanced decision about whether you want to change them. What life would look like if you change, what you could achieve & how much more you might enjoy your life. Think about what you really want, rigid rules or a meaningful & more fulfilled life.

Confidence/self-esteem

Another huge topic area! We all know when we are not feeling confident & when our self esteem has taken a beating. What we often find difficult is getting it back on track or we may have always had difficulty with it. Low self-esteem manifests itself in so many ways. Constantly comparing ourselves to other & finding ourselves lacking, fearful of trying new things, feeling threatened by loads of different things, not being able to pursue what we want to, fear of failure, fear that people don't like us, feeling isolated and alone and scared, to name but a few.

how I can help: There are so many ways in which I can help you with this. Developing self-awareness, making your brain your best friend not your worst critic, building new more helpful habits whilst building on existing strengths to move forwards confidently. Please do book a free call with me, so we can discuss your particular situation we can see how I might be able to help.

Giving back

For some women, they reach a stage in their lives when they want to give something back to their community or workplace or do something that involves creating social Impact and responsibility.

how I can help: This can take some thinking about as it is a total change of mindset, not to mention how to give back that would feeling meaningful and fulfilling whilst not being taken advantage of. Let's work it out together.

Living authentically

The first thing is to identify what is really important to you (values) & then to align your actions, decisions, and lifestyle to this. We tend to feel happier & more fulfilled when our life aligns with our values. When we live a life according to what is important to us. It improves our sense of self-worth, along with an enhanced sense of meaning in our lives.

how I can help: I can help you explore this fascinating part of yourself. We can identify your values. We can then see what changes you can make in your life & how you can move toward them. Generally we can't create a 'perfect' life as we all have things we have to do, but we could fill it, as much as is possible with meaning & fulfilment. It improves our physical & mental health to be spending time doing things we love. The sense of meaning to our life can explode & feel amazing. Truly life changing. Why wouldn't you?

Worrying

Worrying is a natural human thing to do! When we are in situations where we know we are going to lose someone or something, feeling fearful and thinking about what we are going to do is a natural. However, worrying can get out of control and stop us doing things. We can get into massive avoidance & procrastination. It is also exhausting & makes the world feel a scary place. Sometimes people worry about worrying or worry if they don't have something to worry about!

The good news is I can help you to stop worrying. There will be reasons you use worrying to manage your world. There will be reasons why you keep doing it. We can find out what those reasons are & break those cycles. Imagine what you could do with the freedom that not worrying would give you.

I wanted to share some of the ways I work that other clients have found really helpful, your coaching package will be uniquely curated for you and so may or may not contain some of the elements listed below

Self-awareness

Do you find you keep asking yourself, why don't I just do xyz? Why can't I? Why, why, why? We get stuck in this loop of why all the time.

We are curious creatures, human beings. We want to understand. And it is important.

I use a pretty simple formula to give you these answers. So, then you have your answers, you can leave all that why, why, why behind and start moving forwards. This in itself, can be a life changing experience, my client often use the word "profound" change.

It is very empowering to understand why you do what you do and where it comes from.

Confidence

There are so many things that erode our confidence. We may have always been a worrier, change scares us, anxiety in many different forms can paralyse us. Self limiting beliefs, known in psychology as core beliefs can really get in our way. Fears about not being good enough (a key core belief many of us have), feeling we have to do everything perfectly, being self critical, using worrying to try to problem solve, people pleasing, to mention just a few are really unhelpful.

We are trying to cope, cope with the difficult things life throws at us. Some of these ways are helpful and we can build on those. The unhelpful habits we have developed can cause unintential consquences that chip away at our confidence, creating doubt and uncertainty about ourselves.

The good news is, this is fixable! Let's open the bonnet, get the spanners out and fix it together. By now you already know why!

Creating change

We are now at the stage of creating transformational change. We are going to build on the strengths you already have (yes you do!) and add in whatever else you need for your perfect cocktail. Some things my clients have found helpful is learning how to manage worrying - or rather stop! Hone their problem solving and decision making ability, develop boundary setting skills, developing focus, identify what is important to them (values) to live a values based life, set achievable goals.

We will also build your coaching journal as you go through. It is like writing your own life manual that you can return to over and over again and add to. You will get loads of help with this from Floreo, over at Substack.

Visualise for a moment, what positive impact on your life your uniquely curated coaching package could have. You are just one step away from creating this change.

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What you can expect from me.

All the things you learn with me, you will be able to use for the rest of your life, across all situations you come across. You will be working hard!

My coaching philosophy is rooted in EMPATHY, SUPPORT, ENCOURAGEMENT, EMPOWERMENT & PRACTICAL STRATEGIES. I believe in a holistic approach that considers all aspects of your life, helping you to create sustainable change & lasting resilience. I am not afraid to have the tough conversations but always with kindness. I will always be honest, what is the point of anything else?

Whether you're seeking career advancement, personal growth, or a balanced life or maybe something else, I'm here to guide you every step of the way and I will always be cheering you on.

This is not necessarily a linear process, in that we will go from one stage described above to another. You are a unique individual and you will receive unique, curated coaching package for you alone. I don't believe in generic coaching packages that are so rigid you will just give up. I am here to set you up to succeed and I am in your corner, all the way.

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WHAT CLIENTS SAY?

"We would like to thank you again for your support and expertise.
It has helped massively and we now have a whole range of techniques to draw upon if and when things become challenging in the future. We are very proud of what we have achieved in building confidence and resilience and self esteem - the world is a happier place..."

"I found it extremely helpful that when I was finding things difficult you encouraged me to continue trying.
I think that if I had not had this encouragement then I would not have reached the stage I am at now.
You also encouraged me to have an open mind and try all of the methods available, this enabled me to find a method that worked for me"

"I have found the sessions with Jane have had such a positive impact on my life. Jane has helped me work through some difficult feelings and emotions that were causing me issues daily. Jane has helped me implement tools and techniques that are enabling me to feel less anxious, and our sessions have given me the confidence to navigate larger experiences that I have avoided in the past. Our sessions were relaxed and no judgemental, I felt confident sharing with Jane, she is excellent at her job, and I can’t recommend her enough. Thank you so much for helping me feel happier and more confident. "